Your day has been busy running in and out of meetings.
As you’re on your way back to your desk, your direct report stops you saying, “hey, I have been meaning to talk with you about….”
As they are talking all you can think about is the next thing you are going to say. You even find it hard to let them finish their point because you are so ready to jump in.
If this is you, then this week we’ve got some tips for you!
One of our great Coaches, Helen Cooper, is here to give us some tips on what to do if you tend to think about your next point while the person you are talking to is still finishing.
Take it away Helen…
It requires focused behavior to understand and acknowledge another thought/opinion.
I use a couple of tricks to ‘slow down’ mental responses.
- Try to engage differently by ‘listening’ more intently.
- Focus on the key points the person is trying to make.
- Don’t formulate a response immediately.
- Use visual cues, they are really helpful.
- Try to maintain eye contact when the person is speaking.
- Don’t be distracted by texts or devices, stay engaged in the moment.
- Check your understanding by paraphrasing the key points.
- Think back to research or school days when trying to understand the key learning points in a lecture (really try focusing on content!) before thinking about a potential application!
If this is you, then this week then try out of Helen’s tips and let us know how it goes!